Dealing with Rejection - Part 2

Last week, we took a look at how rejection can be an invitation to Christ, knowing the door to Him is always open. If you missed that post, you can read it HERE. This week, we are going to explore how to keep your identity secure and strong when faced with the winds of rejection.

Rejection does not change your identification.

Have you heard the expression, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure”? In essence, it means what some people label as invaluable, could be a priceless jewel to another. What happens if the object someone has called “trash” is actually another person? Are they worthless because someone said they were? What if someone never “said” they were trash, but decided to throw them away? Would that mean they are now garbage because they were treated like it?

Let me tell you a story.

Once, there was a girl. She was lovely, but would deny it if you told her, and had a huge crush on a boy at her school. guy-giving-roseOne day after her class, the boy walked up to her and asked her on a date. She thought she would melt right where she stood. Of course, she said yes and he agreed to pick her up that night.

They went to dinner and he told her she was beautiful, this time she believed she was. She felt like she was in a dream. He was sweet, romantic, and a perfect gentleman the entire night. He even walked her to her door when he dropped her off at her house.

As she looked for her keys in her bag, he asked if he could come inside for some water. She knew her parents were not home yet, but she did not want him to be thirsty so they went inside. She gave him some water and they sat on her couch and talked. Suddenly he leaned over and kissed her. Then he kissed her some more. She thought maybe this was too fast, but she liked him so much that she let him keep going. Pretty soon though, he wanted to do more than kiss…

When she realized what he was doing, she pushed him back and said no. He tried again to go further, and again she stopped him. Angry, he got up and strode to the door. She couldn’t move. Before leaving, he turned back to her and said, “Just so you know, it’s your loss”. Then he walked out of the door and out of her life.

depression and sorrowShe was devastated. She wanted to keep her values, but it had just cost her everything. The boy she liked now thought she was nothing. She had thought maybe he would value her more for not wanting to sleep with him, instead he ran further. To make matters worse, she let him have her first kiss! She put her head in her hands, feeling completely humiliated.

Her parents came home soon after and felt something was wrong. Her mom found her daughter upstairs in bed. She sat down next to her and the girl told her what happened.

Her mom did something unexpected; she began to laugh. Expecting a sympathetic response, the girl was hurt that her mom didn’t take her seriously. Then her mom stopped laughing and explained, “Oh baby girl, he said it was your loss? She tilted her daughter’s chin up and looked in her eyes. “He is the one who is blind. Don’t you know you are worth more than diamonds? You don’t need a joker in your life when God wants to give you a prince. If that boy truly valued you, he would have respected you and treated you like a Princess. He may have stolen a kiss, but sweetheart, don’t let him steal your heart.”

The girl said, “But mom, what will he think of me now? What will he say about me at school?” She put an arm around her daughter. “I know you like him but don’t even waste your time worrying what he thinks of you or what he will now say about you. What Jesus thinks about you is all you need to be concerned about. He loves you, I love you, and that’s all that matters.”

She gave her daughter a hug, kissed her gently on her head and said good night.

The girl felt her shame leaving and felt happy when she remembered she was perfect in God’s eyes, even if this boy thought she was just a nobody. She felt bad for him though and began to pray that he would not treat any other girls like how he treated her, but would come to know Christ and begin to see and treat girls how God does.

She thanked God for His love. As peace flowed through her, she gradually went to sleep.

Matthew 5:11-12

God blesses those who are persecuted for doing right, for the Kingdom of Heaven is theirs. God blesses you when people mock you and persecute you and lie about you and say all sorts of evil things against you because you are my followers. Be happy about it! Be very glad! For a great reward awaits you in heaven.

goldSweet princesses, what God sees as a treasure, will never be trash. The good news is we are highly prized, irreplaceable, treasures to Him. Just imagine, if the wealthiest people in the world put every cent they owned on one side of a scale, and just one of us stood on the other side, we would still be worth more than all those riches.

Beloved, you are priceless.

Be aware you are in a battle. The enemy will use any opportunity to try and make you forget your identity. He will say you are nothing and not good enough but it is only lies. He is afraid of Christ within you! He knows if you knew who you were and walked in authority as the daughter of the King, you would be unstoppable.

Princesses, do not ever let people’s actions or words towards you define who you are. It means nothing unless it aligns with what God says about you. Beloved ones, He treasures you. The King of the universe adores you. You are His favorite. Today you are loved, and loved you will be for all eternity.

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